Fed_up, where is your home town? From the list of things that are ragging you, I guessing you must of had a pretty sheltered life.
Melee, Thailand is an option. Shit, no one is gonna hold you at gun point and make you stay if you don't like it, why not try something a wee bit different.
If money is not an issue, then come over, you and your husband will pick-up work easily enough and once the door is open you never know what is around the corner.
- Yesterday we went to Carrefour (which is a well known chain of department stores that originated from France) and 5 items scanned higher at the checkout counter than their advertised price tags.
At least there is a Carrefour.......
- This place is dirty. Food hygiene is unheard of, most toilets lack toilet paper and soap, there is dog poo everywhere in the streets. I still have the photo of the biggest rat I had ever seen in my life taken in Thailand. People get sick regularly including myself usually with bouts of diarrhea. Furthermore, the air is toxic with exhaust fumes, factory pollutants and the smell emanating from open sewers.
There is food hygiene, just use your head about where you eat. It is no more a health hazzard living than any 3rd world country.
This place is dangerous. I have personally witnessed 5 road accidents (1 of them was fatal) and seen police markings on the road on numerous occasions. A colleague of mine got hit by a car while crossing the road and died later at the hospital. Many of my friends got involved in traffic accidents, muggings and one even got attacked by a Thai kid at a Thai school which disabled him permanently.
Yes the roads are dangerous, I'd suggest not riding a motorbike overhere or at least wearing a helmet if you do. Living in London I witnessed far more than 5 accidents (although I did cycle from Bayswater to Southwark everyday).
Muggings............few and far between, not saying they don't happen but I feel safer walking around in the dark over here than I ever did living in Liverpool, Newcastle and London.
Thai school kids have got nowt on inner city kids in the UK, they'd have em for lunch. There are discipline issues, but generally lateness, talking, sleeping etc. rather than beating the teachers up.
- There is no proper infrastructure and city planning. If you ask Thais they will tell you that they are very proud of the Skytrain and the underground train system. Well, guess what, these two are the only proper infrastructure examples serving a radius of about 15 kms and that's it. Power goes down without any reason and not restored for hours at times. Streets flood after a short burst of rain (I've seen much worse tropical rains in my country with no flooding) as there is no underground drain system or if there is it is already blocked or full. Roads are a mess, sometimes rising out of nowhere threatening to tip the vehicles, other times they are cracked and full of potholes. Pedestrian crossings are a joke, good luck trying to make a car stop for you while crossing one of them. Sidewalks are either taken up by food stalls, the sidewalk pavement stones are all loose and splash dirty water on you and if that's not enough there always seems to be some dirty water dripping on you from somewhere above anywhere you walk.
The infrastructure is not great, but the main highways are ok, internal airlinks are good, and outside of BKK travel is cheap, quick and plentiful. Yes, flooding occurs very easily, but if you and your family come you can join me on my crusade to educate the masses about flinging plastic bags into the drains. The drains and sewer systems improve each year, certainly where I live. Traveling around any capital city in rush hour is a pain in the arse, the underground in London can be a nightmare and the traffic grinds to a stand still.
Outside of Bangkok the city planning is quite good, a lot of the cities are quite new and their design reflects this, with easy entry and exit and US type "blocks".
It is also dangerous crossing roads, but non more so than in Italy, France or Spain. Furthermore, normally if you're willing to walk an extra 50m or so you'll find a footbridge that will take you high above the threat of the traffic.
Umbrellas are a must.
As for the people, take em as you find them. They are not all the same and certainly can not all be labelled as this or that. Most are ok if you yourself are ok.
If you remember that Thailand is a 3rd world country with all the traits of 3rd world countries then you'll be alright.